How Can I Help?
listen, let go, and have faith in a vision of shared parenting;
long for the nightly bed-time rituals that happen, now, less often;
deal with the loneliness of an empty nest, not at eighteen, but at four, or six, or eight;perfect the art of cheerfully saying, "that's terrific; I love hearing about it and I love that you had a great time" even while silently grieving;learn to fill their time with other important things;
whose teenager, needing at last to bond with his dad as never before and lacking any graceful way to ask for the opportunity, rages and rages and rages (this being the price of having raised a son secure enough in his mother's love that he knows that though he pushes her away with all his might, she'll never go away).
How privileged I was to be Forrest (Woody) Mosten's intern at his January, 2014, family mediation training in his L.A. home. I was able not only to participate along with the other students, but also to discuss with Woody his pedagogy and observations of the class. What an outstanding learning experience!
Do stay-at-home moms need a 'postnup'?:
The documentary Divorce Corp, scheduled to be released in January, will undoubtedly generate conversation about the horrors of divorce litigation. Take a look at the trailer and other clips available on YouTube. Then talk to your friends and loved ones about Collaborative Law and mediation, viable alternatives that enable couples to stay out of court, save money, and avoid the indignities, the injustice, and the harm to the children of adversarial divorce.
There is nothing inherently unhealthy in conflict. Like failure, conflict is a sign of life and can lead to further vitality and accomplishment. . . . In a healthy system, conflict provides a lively place to deal with change, failures, errors, and personal shortcomings. An unhealthy system, by contrast, stores up negatives and weapons. In an unhealthy system, there is no search for perspective, no deep thinking, no forgiveness. Just scorecards: Did I get my needs met? Did I make you pay for wounding me? Did I win or lose?